6 Clarity-Creating, Stress-Reducing, Let’s-Live-Life-to-the-Fullest Steps for Staying True to Yourself and On Course—The Case of the Missing Piece.

6ClarityCreatingStreeReducingLiveLifeToTheFullestI love puzzles. I can get lost in those crazy little jigsaw pieces for hours. Over the years I’ve noticed something that leaves me scratching my head every time.

Sometimes, in the blink of an eye, out of 1,000 pieces, I’ll see THE piece that fits right into the spot I’m working on. Bingo! Jack pot! Click! In it goes.

Other times I’ll pick up a piece for a particular spot and in a half a millisecond I know it’s the wrong piece.

But still, even though I already KNOW it’s the wrong piece….

Even after my logical mind kicks in and validates that it’s the wrong piece—heck, it’s the wrong color, the wrong shape, the wrong configuration—I still try to fit the piece into place.

Sometimes I even go so far as to try to “force” it. I try it from every angle. I push it; I shove it; I practically bend it into place. What the heck?

It’s sort of an amazing process to watch. And it doesn’t just stop with puzzles, obviously.

I’m sure you have some real doozies of your own; times when you totally “knew” something on a dime but completely ignored that little voice of yours and proceeded to do it anyway; I know I surely do! Like the time in Thailand that I wrote about in Plug Yourself Into the Frequency of Happiness where a little voice warned me over and over not to get into the water, that this was a really really bad idea. The quick version of this story is that I got in anyway and got caught up in an undertoe that easily could have killed me. Since I’m sitting here writing to you, that story actually had a happy ending.

In your case….

Maybe you knew you shouldn’t turn down a certain road on your way home but you did anyway and you ended up in hours of bumper to bumper gridlock. Not fun.

Maybe you knew the quiche wasn’t right the minute you read it on the menu but you ordered it anyway and you ended up sick as a dog all night long. Not a pretty picture. Again, not fun.

Or maybe you knew a certain job wasn’t right for you but you ignored that hunch and took it anyway because you were flat broke. It wasn’t even a full 2 days before you were embroiled in some nightmarish debacle with HR over a false accusation that you stole intellectual property that lasted 7 months and left you completely demoralized. Definitely NOT fun.

I’m sure we could compile quite the list here, you and me, and it doesn’t paint a pretty picture.

So here’s the thing. You seriously shortchange yourself when you don’t involve those little intuitive hunches of yours.

You’re actually playing small when you don’t step into the game with your whole self. And your whole self involves that intuitive sense of yours. It would be like playing Solitaire with 3 missing cards—you’d never win that way and eventually the game would just stop being fun.

Your life rhythm gets tripped up when you second guess at every turn. You get anxious. You get nervous. Life gets depressing. You stop taking heart-directed action and pretty soon your life just doesn’t feel so interesting or vibrant or fun anymore.

No matter how hard you try you can’t win Solitaire without the whole deck. It’s a fact. The whole deck when it comes to your life being fantastically fully lived has to include your intuitive side—your hunches, your whisperings from within.

You’re a creative being. You’re a heart centered, sensitive, full-of-life human being (even if that energy is all tamped down right at the moment). You believe “life’s a daring adventure or nothing at all” and there’s no way you can live that kind of life without allowing your intuition onto the scene.

So as much as you and I can compile a list of real life times when we’ve tried to force puzzle pieces, I also know that like me, there are times when you do listen to that inner voice of yours because this isn’t completely foreign territory for you.

You know what it feels like to follow your intuition.

There have been times when incredible things have happened because you followed your intuition. It was a good feeling—you felt alive and vibrant and fully engaged in your life. Even if it’s only been a few times, I know you’ve had that experience. I know you know what it feels like to be fully alive.

That connection with your intuition; that dance between action and intuition, that’s when life starts to feel like a game again. That’s when life starts to feel magical and inspired and on purpose again.

So let’s talk about how we can get you back on course, connected to that inner powerhouse of yours—your intuition.

Here are your 6 simple clarity-creating, stress-reducing, let’s-live-life-to-the-fullest steps for staying true to yourself and on course—even when it gives you the heebie geebies.

  1. Acknowledge that you have an inner voice. This may seem so simple as to be ridiculous but please don’t skip this step. Really take the time to acknowledge this. Take the time to sit down and think about this a bit. Maybe journal about your intuition. Think back to the times in your life when you went a little bit out on a limb because you had a “hunch” and let yourself really see the incredible results you got because you trusted your intuition. 
  2. Make room for your intuition. Your intuitive voice needs space. It’s a quietish voice (hmmm.. quietish. I like that word. I don’t think it exists but it’s cute and I think I’ll keep it and I’m pretty sure you know what it means J). It doesn’t scream and yell or demand your attention. You’re actually the one who has to invite it in. There has to be room at the table for it. So, here’s the thing. You’ve got to slow down—at least occasionally! Meditation or guided meditation is perfect for this. If you’re just starting out with this, even 5 minutes would be great. Heck even 2 minutes! Just close your eyes and listen to yourself breath in and out. Relax your body. If your thoughts go haywire—as they will because that’s sort of what our thoughts do—just bring yourself back to your breath. Be easy about it. Be gentle about it. And be consistent. Set the timer. Meditate. 
  3. Listen for it/listen to it. Once you’ve made room for your intuition, it’s going to start showing up. Now you want to listen for it. You want to pay attention to it. What’s it telling you? Where’s it guiding you? It might be a good idea to start an intuition journal—this is a place where you can jot down little thoughts or feelings that seem to come out of nowhere. It’s a place where you can start keeping notes of all the synchronistic things that start to happen once you really step into the realm of living from a place of intuitive clarity. Your life will increasingly begin to feel on purpose and on track. 
  4. Learn the difference. Just so we’re perfectly clear here, there is a difference between a hunch from your intuition and a hunch from that part of you who loves to keep you playing small and victimy. Those hunches look more like “have that hostess twinkie!” or “that 3rd glass of champagne really would be good for your health”, or “you really should buy those $7,000 worth of gardening supplies” (even though you haven’t touched your garden in 9 years). 
  5. Act on it. Lights, camera, ACTION. Now it’s time to act. You don’t have to start with the big stuff here. Start little. Practice and play with your intuition. Now that you’ve invited your intuition into your life and you’re hearing from it, start acting from it. At the beginning it can be as simple as choosing the apple at the supermarket that you feel drawn to. The practice here is to keep your mind’s chatter out of the picture and pick the apple. Don’t be tempted to disappear into “well, what difference does it make anyway? I’m probably just imagining this. Who cares which apple I pick?” etc.. etc.. You know the drill. As you begin to act on your intuitive hits, you’ll get more of them. And then they’ll get clearer and clearer. 
  6. Repeat steps 1 through 5. This is an ongoing, long term, forever relationship. You’re going to go back and forth over and over with your intuition. The more attention you pay to it, the stronger it will become in your life. The more you delight in the outcomes—even the small ones—that come your way from an intuition-activated life, the more stunning your results become. At first you may just be getting hunches about puzzle pieces or dinners but in time you’ll be drawn to just the right people, the right situations, the right places to create the life you want to be living. So look at this as a holographic ongoing adventure. As you tend to your relationship with your intuition your anxiety will decrease, your delight in life will increase and you’ll begin to feel more alive and more vibrant.

So onward and forward you go. Have fun with this. Be easy about it. If it starts off a little wobbly as many things in life tend to do, stay with. Come back to it; stay with it and you’ll reap the rewards.

Leave a comment because I’d love to hear about what kind of things start happening for you. Let me know how you’re doing with this.

With showers of light and love,

Are you ready to get really serious about living a fuller, happier, more vibrant life?

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