ARE YOU GETTING CAUGHT UP IN THE UNDERTOW OF ANXIETY MORE OFTEN THAN YOU’D LIKE TO ADMIT? WELL, YOU’RE NOT ALONE. AND HERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU CAN DO TO TURN THAT AROUND.

You don’t mean to, you try and avoid it but chances are pretty good you get tangled up heaps of anxiety these days. If you’re lucky, not so often; but you’re probably not so lucky sometimes.

You’re not alone.

I wish I could tell you I’ve never seen the underbelly of anxiety up close and personal. I wish I could tell you that I only saw it once many years ago and that it’s such a distant memory at this point that I can barely remember it.  But that’s not the case.

I’ve had times in my life when I’ve sat bolt upright in the middle of the night with my heart pounding so loudly I could literally hear it. I’ve had anxiety grab me by the throat and squeeze so tight I could barely breath. You too? Or some iteration thereof? Anxiety wears many outfits.

I’ve had a ring side seat to my own life and those of the many clients I’ve worked with since I opened my doors for business in 1986 and here’s what I know… Continue reading…

ONCE UPON A TIME IN A LAND FAR FAR AWAY… ARE YOU TURNING ON THE ENDORPHINS OR FLOODING YOURSELF WITH NEVER ENDING RIVERS OF CORTISOL?

What’s your spin on life today? Specifically, your life. It’s your call. Really, seriously it is.

Attitude is everything.

I know, you’ve heard that one a gazillion times if you’ve heard it once. In fact, it’s one of those things that’s said so often that at some point it just plain old stops meaning anything. But just for a few minutes here, let’s actually lean into it. Attitude is everything.

How you tell yourself the story of what’s happening to you sets the tone for that story, i.e. it sets the tone for your life.

Give the same 9 facts to 7 different story tellers and let them tell the story any way they choose, set a deadline and cut them loose…. Continue reading…

IT’S SUCH A HARD THING TO DO BUT OH, THE INCREDIBLE THINGS THAT START TO HAPPEN WHEN YOU DO—LIKE SOME OF YOUR DREAMS ACTUALLY BECOMING REALITIES.

You plant a seed. You water it. You tend to it. Or maybe you forget all about it. But the one thing I’m pretty sure you don’t do, is rush out the next morning and dig it up to see if it’s growing.

Is it growing? Is it growing now? (To be said with the pleading tone of a small child in the backseat of a car after the first 15 minutes of an 8 hour road trip! “Are we there yet?”)

That’d be ridiculous, right? And yet, that’s sort of exactly what we do in certain pockets of our lives—those corners that mean the most to us. When there’s something you really want—whether it’s an awesome relationship or a new creative impulse or the lyrics for a new song or a new job or a ton of money—we watch like hawks.

It’s hard to fully step into a dream and own it and allow it to come to us on its own terms without “proof”. But here’s the thing… Continue reading…

OH HELL, SOMEONE JUST PASS ME THE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES AND A BOTTLE OF VODKA! GOLLUM’S BACK IN THE HOUSE.

I’ve got to have it. I need it. No, rewrite that. I neeeeeeeeed it. You know, that clingy gooey energy that slithers into your belly. It’ll go AWOL every now and then—sometimes even for a long time—and then bam! Here’s Johnny! It’s back again in all it’s splendor.

Your very own personal resident Gollum. And oh, hell no, he’s driving the bus!

Suddenly you’re one ball of “I’ve gotta have it.”

Murky, sneaky, swampy “I’ve gotta have it NOW!” energy. 10,017 faces of it. I neeeeeeeed… Continue reading…

WHAT IF THAT VERY THING YOU’VE BEEN TOLD YOUR WHOLE LIFE IS WRONG WITH YOU…. IS ACTUALLY THE VERY THING, THAT WHEN YOU EMBRACE IT AND OWN IT AND LIVE FROM IT, OPENS THE FLOODGATES TO A LEVEL OF HAPPINESS THAT FEELS POSITIVELY MAGICAL.

I spent the first 20+ years of my life knowing to the core of my being that there was something fundamentally wrong with me.

I knew that if people really knew me, they most certainly would/could never really love me. And chances are, if you’re a sensitive, heart-full, emotional “fairy dust and pixie” kind of person, so did you.

Needless to say, there was a big chunk of my life that wasn’t easy. Understatement. But somehow, something inside kept nudging me. “Look at me. Get to know me. Love me.” And so, in a far from graceful way, that’s what I did. And what I discovered is that when I accepted–and yes sometimes even loved–this quirky highly sensitive and emotional human being that I am, I stepped into pure unadulterated happiness. Continue reading…